Anger is a Secondary Emotion

Are you wearing a mask on your true emotions, and letting secondary emotions run your life?

Not many people know this, but anger is a mask on the top of the face of pain, hurt, fear.

It is the mask we put on to defend our feelings and is used as a barrier for when you're not ready to face the underlying problem.

But it's not only used for protection, it is also used as a source for channeling motivation in order for change to occur. For example, getting tired of excuses, therefore, channeling it in a way so you can accomplish goals make a change, readjust your life. But remember, anger is a cover up, driving the true motive behind the scenes.

In the end anger should always be used as a temporary emotion. Ever lasting anger is truly a bad thing to live in. Being in an everlasting state of anger can keep you isolated and lonely, it can blind you for the sake of protecting what you think needs coddling, and it can confuse you.

This secondary emotion uses up a substantial amount of energy, so staying in that emotional state makes you feel continually exhausted.

Most people have no idea what they're even angry about, but they know that it's there. This is why therapy should be considered, to help you to get to the bottom of your feelings.

For others, that can't afford it, I recommend, paying attention, looking in, journal in hand, and to use the why method.

First, write down what made you upset or angry, then keep asking yourself why until you start to realize what is actually hiding underneath. Some people come to the conclusion that, they're hurt, they feel rejected, not feel seen, heard, or that they're not being respected, maybe taken for granted.

The why method is a great start to go searching with in and helping you to become conscious of why you're truly upset, it may even help you to communicate better, and solve issues with others so you can truly let them know whats bothering you rather than using anger as a source of " temporarily resolving" something.

It's also recommended that you exercise when you have all that pent up anger surfacing. That's because although anger is draining, it's being charged from your energy or the energies around you. Ever notice how contagious it is? If someone you're around is angry, depending on the situation, that negative energy then transfers to you? It's like a battery being passed around from person to person, until something pushes it over the edge...

Instead of transferring it to someone else( through arguing, fighting, hurting someones' feelings). You can channel it into yourself through working out, which transmutes the energy into something positive for yourself.

Some people even use creation such as, art/painting, drawing, poetry and dance to channel all of that energy. What ever it is, get that body or mind moving, channel it and allow it to release through you.

Lastly remember, anger is trying to tell you something important about yourself. Brushing it off, or not resolving the problem only allows the cycle of anger to grow, pushing you past rationality. Consider whats best for your emotional and mental health. These things take time, but as long as you're aware of whats going on inside yourself, you have an opportunity for amazing changes to take hold.

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